|My Official Enneagram Consultant Certificate!|
In the final week of my certification process, I attended the Enneagram Intensive in Montreat, North Carolina. The second half of that week is about growth: how we can all grow using our types as a guide. So, the question posed to us as we sat on panels of our type was: What is your next step? My answer: To focus on what is present rather than what is missing. As a Four, my natural focus of attention goes toward what is lacking or what is missing. This leads me to favor feelings of longing and melancholy and is summed up perfectly in one of my favorite quotes.
True joy lies not in the having but in the desiring. The bliss that is eternal; the delight that never fades, is only yours when what you most desire is just out of reach.So, this next step will be a particular challenge for me, as there is juice in longing, in desiring the unattainable, and in being attracted to what is missing. I have remained comfortable in this pattern, of dreaming about my castle in the clouds rather than taking action towards materializing that dream.
However, that pattern is no longer working for me. There are many things I want to accomplish in this life and I am aware of how fleeting it can all be. I am tired of being disappointed by my dreams not coming to fruition...by thinking the deadly phrase: If only...
I am excited about the prospect of growth. I am looking forward to taking action. I want to embark on this next step. And I have a feeling that when I start focusing on what is right in front of me, on the blessings I do have, I will realize how much my life is already dream-like.
As I've mused over what "focusing on the present" really means, I am drawn to the concept of gratitude and counting my blessings. I bought a Gratitude journal at least two years ago and it is so difficult for me to write in it. I'm not sure if it's because I think I have to write a long entry or something profound, but it sits on my shelf weighing heavily with bare pages.
|My Gratitude Journal|
My boyfriend, Michael, pointed out to me that I have a tendency to make grand gestures when I want to effect change. New Year's Resolutions are a big deal for me...starting things on Mondays...going on juice cleanses when I want to drop a few pounds. Let's just say I tend to tackle things in extremes. Go big or go home. I have more difficulty with taking small, sure, steady steps.
However, in thinking about counting my blessings and expressing my gratitude as a way of staying focused on what is present, I am going to try to start small. I'll share via Twitter and Facebook three things that I am grateful for as they come to me. And I'm going to start right now.
|Guitar Lessons with John Berenzy|
Counting My Blessings1. Guitar Lessons
2. Hot Showers
3. Walking in the park with an old friend
What are you grateful for? Can you count three blessings that you currently have in your life? Please share in the comments below. I look forward to reading!
Elizabeth Elkins is a Certified Enneagram Consultant. She offers individual, partner and group sessions, as well as workshops. For more information, go to www.enneagramnewyorkcity.com.